Well the family choices were not all the same. But in the end we do all agree that Mom needs to be ready and OK with whatever the decision is. Mom is not ready to give up and so she is going to go with 7 days of dialysis. That will put dialysis over on Saturday. Jennifer wants to make sure that we have done all that we can and have no what-ifs. My concern is that the doctors will keep coming up with more "ideas" and more waiting will be inevitable. I just don't want Dad to suffer. The doctors say that he is out of it and can not feel pain, but how do they know what he can feel? I totally agree that my Mom needs to be ready and I know that Dad will do this forever if that is what she needs. Mom was telling us a few days ago about when her and Dad came to San Diego just last December. They had walked and walked and walked down to the end of the beach and back and Dad asked if Mom wanted to keep going. Mom said that she was hungry and would rather go eat. Dad was so happy because he was tired and in pain. Mom cried and said "but Dad would have kept on walking if I had wanted to".
So the decision for now is to give dialysis a few more days. I am afraid that we will just be facing the same choice again on Saturday, but I am praying for the miracle that we are all looking for.
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I can only imagine how hard it must be for a person to have to make such a decision for another regarding life or death, especially for someone so loved. Our family continues to pray for all of you. We love you!
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